Are you living up to your full potential? Most people will say no they’re not and they’d be right. It appears that the average person is only using about ten percent of their potential. A lack of self-confidence is often at the heart of why we don’t succeed in many areas of our life and it holds us back from going after what we truly deeply desire. Depending on what is going on in our lives, something can happen to cause us to doubt ourselves or feel ashamed. Maybe we were criticised as a child making us think that we’re not good enough.
Sadly, this is an all too common reality for many but the wonderful thing is that you have the power to change it. You must be ready and want to change your perception of yourself. When you are intentional in creating your life, you have freed yourself from a mental prison and have opened yourself up to growth and possibilities. And with a heavy dose of self-love and acceptance you lay the foundation of a more confident you.
How to Become Confident
Becoming confident requires commitment and repetitive self-talk that supports our desires. You might find that you’re already confident in some areas of your life, like when you’re performing a task regularly. It might be related to your job or business or a hobby. This comes as a result of your competency at that skill due to the repetition of whatever actions you are taking. Similarly, when you repeat positive and empowering affirmations or statements of truth to yourself, you begin to build the confidence muscle in your brain. You are literally rewiring your brain to be confident. I have personally helped many clients to build their confidence to start their own businesses, speak in public and find love to name but a few of their deepest wishes.
Part of my mission in life is to help women realise who they are and what they’re here for. I want women to reach their potential and feel confident in their skin and put themselves out there to follow their dreams.
Here’s my 3 tips to develop self-confidence
1. Be Yourself
Whether your lack of confidence is related to appearance, intelligence, success or wealth, avoid comparing yourself to others. It’s very easy to look at someone else’s life and think they have it all together. Especially seeing only people’s highlights reel online. We only see them at their best and never at their worst. No one really knows what is going on in someone else’s life. And just because they appear to have it all doesn’t mean they do. Everyone has their own battles. They say the grass is always greener.
Here’s the main reason why you should NEVER compare yourself to other’s, it’s a waste of your time and energy and means you’re not CREATING your one beautiful life. You are a spiritual being, living in a physical body with more potential than you’ll ever use in your lifetime. Underneath the personality lies our authentic Self. It exudes sincere and genuine confidence and needs no alteration. It is to live from this place within that we must aspire to.
Gratitude is powerful. When you are feeling low the best way to start feeling better is to feel gratitude. I know it is easier said than done. If we get deep enough into the rabbit hole we can feel we have nothing to be grateful for. But I promise you there is always something to be grateful for. A comfortable bed to sleep in. Food in your fridge. Hot water to shower with. Money to pay a bill. A loving partner. A healthy body. When you focus on the the good things in your life and feel truly grateful your heart will get lighter.
I’d like to go a step further and encourage you to be grateful for some of the things that haven’t always gone so well and be willing to look for the gift and learn the lesson. Sometimes our tormentors are our greatest mentors in life and recognising this can really elevate our self esteem and confidence. You start to recognise more things to be grateful for. Instead of focusing on what you conceive to be your flaws focus on the good things about you. Gratitude raises our vibration and makes us feel better and when we feel better we become magnetic to more of what we are grateful for. It’s a win win. Write a list of everything you appreciate about yourself and your life right now.
3. Become your own cheerleader
It’s important that we think good thoughts about ourselves. You’ve probably heard it before, we become what we think about. It’s vital that you support yourself with what you are suggesting. Master your internal voice and cheer yourself on. The inner critic will try to shout you down but you can override her. She’s just scared that you’ll abandon her. Shush, don’t tell her yet, but that’s the plan. Here are some examples of what you can say to yourself to boost your confidence and thrive ;-
“I love my body and I feel sexy and confident in my own skin and everyday I am amazed at what my body can do.”
“I love that I am so clear and articulate when I speak to my work colleagues. Everything runs so smoothly because I communicate so well.”
“I attract new clients everyday and I always make the sale because I am such a likeable person. People love to work with me! “
“I am good enough to start my own business.”
“I’m a naturally confident person and attract the right people and resources to me easily.”
Would you like the above to be true about you? It can be with the power of auto suggestion and self belief. Write out your own list and start saying it to yourself and writing it out everyday. When you continue to repeat these positive thoughts about yourself you will start to believe them and the results will start to show.
Self confidence results in feeling happier and being more successful. Self confidence allows us to be who we are supposed to be.
If you would like to learn more about boosting your confidence or how to tap into your full potential, then book a free 30 minute discovery call here.